Wannabe Balanced | Mormon Enlightenment | Post LDS

Wannabe Balanced | Mormon Enlightenment | Post LDS

Published by: Crystal and Sean Escobar
82 Episodes | First Released: Feb 26 '18
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Elle in the city
Mar 4
Rating:   10
Excellent podcast!

I just listened to What is a Cult? Whether a group is a cult or not, if you need to ask this question, there’s probably a problem. Maybe you can’t leave the group without dire consequences. Or as was stated during this podcast, you can’t leave with your dignity. The point about seeking validation or needing to be right hit home for me. Once I found out the level of manipulation and deceit that went on on my group, I wanted to hear of others who felt similarly. It’s a natural human response. But I have to live my life and make choices, whether I get the approval I seek or not. I enjoyed this and will listen to more of her episodes. I didn’t leave LDS but another high control group. It’s like all these groups are working from the same playbook. Lots of similar phrases. Thank you for the work you are doing to help people who are leaving their birth faith.

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Brigollig
Dec 13 '19
Rating:   10
Awesome podcast and online community

So grateful for this podcast and the fb community! It has lifted my spirits so much to know that I am not alone and to see people thriving after leaving the church! Lots of love for you guys

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dobug03
Dec 11 '19
Rating:   10
Healing!

I love the whole basis of this podcast and why it was originally started! To know we’re not alone and feel a sense of community is so very healing! So many of us have lost our community, friends, even family over leaving the Mormon church... Listening to the Mormon Enlightenment has been validating and healing -helps me see that I’m not alone!!

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Zoothslooth
Dec 10 '19
Rating:   10
Great content and insight

Great content and insight from the Escobars! Give it a try, it’s great for anyone in a faith transition or challenge of beliefs. Keep up the good work!

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skierdie
Dec 9 '19
Rating:   10
Sooo good!

I absolutely love the content of this podcast! It has an excellent mix of comedy, helpful information, and touching stories that have really brought value to my life! Highly recommend the sub!

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LewCrew7
Dec 7 '19
Rating:   10
Eureka

Sean and Crystal have served all of us with the amazing content that is produced and shared through this podcast. I am thankful for their strength and love for others.

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jmwc23
Dec 7 '19
Rating:   10
Thank you!!

I just have to thank you for the parenting after Mormonism episode. I grew up in the church and haven’t been Mormon for ~15 years but just had a lightbulb moment that I am still parenting my kids like I am. WOW!! I am humbled and am in tears over this. I have some immediate changes I need to make! I’m not on fb but would LOVE more parenting podcasts and am very curious how you address sex with your daughter. My son is almost 15 and I’m so scarred by how I was taught about/ the Mormon view on sex I don’t want him to feel the same shame. Thank you for all you do to bring light to life after being a Mormon. I have followed you for years and was shocked when I heard y’all left the church. So glad y’all found freedom.

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Holly All Things Pineapple 🍍
Nov 7 '19
Rating:   10
Letting go & accepting “what is”, UNDER PRESSURE!

Loved your most recent podcast “Under Pressure”. I like the variety of pressures you discussed specifically for women! I can relate on both a small scale & a large scale to some of the pressures you shared. On a smaller scale- one example for me...Sundays- “keeping the Sabbath day holy”. As a mom & former faithful LDS woman, for many years I felt the pressure to keep this day “sacred”. But my version of “sacred” has changed. I once limited our activities on Sundays to strictly church/family stuff and when I look back, most our family drama was on Sundays. Ironic! Now we have an extra day in our week to choose more intentionally how we spend our time. I love that we can participate in sports, hikes, school projects, brunch/dinners together, or simply doing nothing etc without the attached guilt I once associated that with. It’s always bonding time as we find ways to connect with each other and with random people we meet while we are out and about. This is how I now define “sacred”- moments of connection which can happen anywhere, not limited to a church bldg or church activities. I’ve had some of my most “spiritual” experiences on Sundays outside of church since I shifted my perspective. This was one of the many unnecessary limitations and pressures I put upon myself & my family for a long time. On a larger scale, I felt such pressure both from the church & from society to stay in a marriage where I was not thriving. Accepting that my husband and I have grown apart has been painful. Accepting that it is “ok” to choose to separate has given me peace as I felt guilt for so long surrounding that choice. I worried I’d upset people, I worried I’d hurt my children, I worried about being alone. I was pained with the ongoing torture of saying to myself “what will they think if we separate and get divorced?” I worried they would blame my choice to leave the church as to why our marriage ‘failed” (in their eyes) when they had no idea the realties I was facing. The pressure I felt to stay in a marriage, in which I was shelving a lot was so heavy on me, and that pressure I created was felt by the ones I love who ultimately just wanted to see me happy. Releasing that pressure & accepting that our marriage has not failed but rather has “died” has been healing for me. Once I allowed myself to let go of the pressure and accept “what is”, my relationship with my ex has improved. We communicate better, we’ve learned to forgive, & we are better friends now than we’ve been in 20+ yrs. We love each other and always will. We are doing our best to coparent & figure things out one day at a time together. We simply aren’t compatible, we are better apart (at least for now). The reality is that we have grown apart both emotionally & spiritually. And that’s ok. Its been full of grief. But it’s OK. It doesn’t mean we failed. And if we have failed, we have grown from it. Despite the ups and downs, we built a beautiful self-made life together and created 3 wonderful daughters together. And they will learn from our mistakes and from how we are choosing to go forward. I am grateful that we got to spend the first half of our lives together. I learned a lot. There just isn’t one right way. I have recently allowed myself to let go of the unnecessary pressure I felt from society, family, friends, and from myself. Not having that pressure to conform to what society and religion says is “right and wrong” is liberating. One thing I’ve learned is that no matter what system(s) we are a part of (society, religion, family, etc)- we sure put a lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves & thus on each other. Learning to let go, sail in my own direction, follow my own heart, trust my own gut, is so freeing. Letting go of unnecessary pressure...one day at a time. 🦅🛳

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Bobby the Winner
Oct 31 '19
Rating:   10
Nice to hear

I have grown up in Utah and was grown up in the faith. I never served a mission and I feel even though I didn’t realize it then it was me knowing the church wasn’t for me. I like to hear your thoughts and willingness to put yourself out there. Great podcast helpful with knowing how to talk and grow in transitions.

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JasBeaw
Oct 30 '19
Rating:   10
Surprised to love it

I am really enjoying this podcast. And I’m surprised. I am not interested in influencers, millionaires, moms, or people who still believe in God. BUT??? I happened across this podcast because I’m an ex Mormon, trying to figure out life. I’m only listening to the episodes that relate to faith transition / life philosophies. And I am really enjoying hearing what they have to say. Even though I don’t share all the same beliefs, they talk about exploring what you believe in and finding what is right for you, and it’s really cool. She is always talking about how she is reading more and educating herself, and I value that.

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Grizzle4578
Oct 29 '19
Rating:   10
Authentic as f*#~

What a great podcast all around! The new changes have been fun! Happy to have some humor in the faith transition realm! Even more happy to see you guys standing up for making this world a better place!

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Charleenyweeny
Oct 8 '19
Rating:   10
Amazing Humans

You two are hilarious! So happy to see how close this has brought you to even each other. People need this help and I love listening because I really enjoy your perspective as an all in Mormon. Has helped me understand the craziness my husband grew up with. Love the journey, glad you can share it with us!!

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cchdraper
Oct 6 '19
Rating:   10
Honesty

It may not be what “the church” wants to hear but Sean and Crystal are open and honest in a refreshing way. Thank you for being honest!!

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kaylynnefackrell
Oct 4 '19
Rating:   10
Much needed

The tithing post that went viral, is what struck me into curiousity about the history and the truth behind this religion that runs my entire family(not me or my siblings though) And since I’ve added myself to their group on fb, and listened to the podcast. Although I haven’t been active for 17 years, it rules my family. Which causes a lot of shAme from judgement. So appreciate you guys standing up for so many who are so afraid to shout the truth. You guys are proof that you can live a healthy happy life after Mormonism. Thank you both! You ARE making a difference!

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AceDace123
Sep 11 '19
Rating:   10
Wannabe Balanced is food for my soul

I subscribed to this podcast after hearing Crystal speak on the Mormon stories podcast and I couldn’t be happier that I did. Crystals insights and podcast guests have been SO healthy for my mind. I feel like I have the motivation and confidence to live my very best life without apology. 💜💜💜

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Spence's #1 fan
Aug 8 '19
Rating:   10
Just, thank you.

I can’t thank you guys enough for your vulnerability, open minded thoughts, feelings, etc past the church. Every episode I’m like “yep, I’ve felt that way too”. So healing to hear like-minded people say what I’ve been thinking for years. I left a few years ago and still have hard times communicating with fam, dealing with frustrating ways I was conditioned, learning new ways to think, etc. So thank you. Just requested to join your FB group as well!

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PorpoiseBubbles
May 21 '19
Rating:   10
Keep doing what you do!

Listened to you on Mormon Stories and couldn’t wait to jump on here. THANK YOU for sharing your talents❣️

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ainaloagirl
May 9 '19
Rating:   10
You inspire me❤️

I’ve been listening to your very relatable story on mormonstories and I love you and your husband! You’re brave and smart and beautiful humans!! Thank you😘

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Light sleeper 17
May 7 '19
Rating:   10
Love this podcast!

I recently discovered this podcast. I had seen Chrystal in some mommy Facebook groups that I was in before my faith transition and then after leaving that religion I was pleasantly surprised to see that Crystal and her husband had transitioned a few months before me and my husband. I totally stalked her on Instagram after that and found this wonderful podcast. (I promise I’m not a total creeper haha.) ;) Anyway, this Podcast has been such a great new asset in my life. Listening to Crystal and Sean talk about so many things that I relate to in this journey called life has been so great. (I have 4 kids and am also an author so I relate to so much of this.) I love how positive this podcast is and I can’t get enough of it. It has quickly become my favorite podcast to listen to. :) Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable!

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MgB0578
Apr 28 '19
Rating:   10
My new favorite podcast!

I love this podcast. I have lived in Utah my whole life and grew up in an inactive home. That was hard! I have tried many times to go to church just to be accepted. I go and end up offended by somebody’s unnecessary comments. Then I hear “It’s not the church it’s the people in the church you that ruin it” Exactly and that is not the person I am nor I want to be. I love your real ness and your approach on your new beliefs. You are AMAZING! Thank you, thank you, thank you for speaking out about this in such a mature exceptional manner.😁❤️

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