Insulted by the episode on babywearing
I was an occasional listener after having my daughter and wanting to learn more about Montessori. There are other podcasts that better fit my needs and parenting style, but I found some of these episodes helpful and interesting (so I gave 2 stars instead of the 1 I would have given for the babywearing episode alone). Overall, this episode aside I think it contains some good ideas and advice, but I seems like the host himself doesn’t have any children and it really is more helpful for teachers than parents. However, I wouldn’t have felt strongly enough to write a review if it wasn’t for the babywearing episode so that is what I am going to focus on.I was really excited to see an episode on babywearing since that is something that has been really invaluable in my life as a new mom. Unfortunately I couldn’t even make it through the episode and was frankly insulted by the implications. The host starts by comparing babywearing to ladies walking through the mall with tiny dogs in purses. Really? Firstly this is a human baby and under no circumstances is it appropriate to compare babies to dogs. Secondly it seemed clear that he had not done any of his own research on babywearing and was just going to take the word of his guest on it. The guest owned a Montessori baby care center and opened with an anecdote about a six month old who had been cared for by her grandparents before coming to the center. She felt that the grandparents wore the baby because they didn’t know what her cries meant and she was happy been worn? To me, if they couldn’t exactly differentiate each cry but was happy being worn, so what? Also six months is major stranger danger time for babies so what an incredibly rough time to start day care. Then she talks about how they had to really work at redirecting this baby towards the activity mat instead of being held. Maybe because she wanted to be held and the grandparent had been responding to her needs previously so no, when thrown into a room full of strangers, she didn’t want to be put down on the floor alone. Then she talked about how they would do things at her center to encourage kids to reach their milestones and it all just sounded really academic and institutional and not baby led at all. I had to stop listening then because it wasn’t adding anything positive to my life so I apologize if the rest of the podcast did give the other side regarding the benefits of babywearing.For the record, babywearing is great for bonding (stimulates oxytocin production), decreases the risk of sids and flat head syndrome, prompts early language development, boosts breast milk production, can mitigate the effects of a mother’s postpartum depression on baby, aids in balance, decreases crying time significantly, and more. It gives baby a front row seat to do life with you. And, based on personal experience, my baby has hit all her milestones early and is worn often. She is also much happier to be on the floor now that she can move around herself - because of course it would be awful to be left alone on the floor when you can’t move. There is no perspective from Maria Montessori herself on babywearing, but all available research points to its benefits. I would hate for anyone to listen to the episode and miss out on the benefits of babywearing because of it.
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